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」、演出「孝慈話劇」等。 時，十多年後父親便自己要求住老人院， regret that I did not offer all my filial between classes and child

怕我照顧他辛苦，我與太太也選擇了附近 piety. However, her words always studied management
再進一步，抱著興奮而緊張的心情第一
較清雅潔淨的老人院舍，讓他清閒地生活。 echoed in my mind: “Be a good person. courses, and took evening
次拜見未來岳母大人，說話都不敢過多，
他看病的次數開始頻密，多虧太太悉心 Do your best to develop yourself, raise literature, history and ph
卻感受到她對我的關心和愛護，有如兒子
照料，女兒時常與他聊天，一家人天天都 and care for your family.” three years, deepening our
！在回家途中，回想到在天堂的母親，真
過著和樂的日子。 I knelt down to offer tea to my Eastern and Western cultures.
是悲喜交集，悲的是她不能親眼看到我成
mother-in-law, along with the Working hard increased our
家立室，喜的是我可以與她分享我人生的 難捨難離的日子終於到來，父親總要離
traditional red packet of money in only a bit, but it helped us
愛，我未能侍親長生，未能盡孝成為憾事 去，我為他寫了短短的文句：「一介草民
thanks for receiving my bride; then I father and mother-in-law. My
，但她的叮嚀卻言猶在耳：「好好做人， ，孝感淚流，點滴炁氣，懸壺濟世，誠敬
returned home to kneel and offer tea to used up his retirement fu
盡自己的能力修身、齊家，照顧好家人。」 宗師，崇禮仙佛，心繫蒼生，不眠不休，
My marriage to my wife occurred through mercifulness, comprehension, temperance, my father. The wedding ceremony was siblings could only collec
天恩垂隆，承先啟後，德厚意堅，常行義
傳統接新娘的紅封包少不了，跟著下跪 Heaven’s design. We met through a frugality, genuineness, propriety, and
舉，聖哲大道，默默耕耘，教之以身，廣 held in the hall of Heaven’s money to pay for his rent, so
斟茶給岳母，然後回家下跪斟茶給父親。 religious community called Heaven’s harmony. This was our challenge for the
佈無畏。」 Magnanimity and Holy Teaching; our for him to live near our
結婚的禮儀在天德聖教的聖堂裡舉行，親
Magnanimity and Holy Teaching future. friends filled the small hall. It was a wife and I took turns vi
友們倒塞了小小的堂社，在歡天喜地的氣 父親給我講故事時，都是悲從中來，祖
Religion, where we got to know each We invested our spare time into joyous occasion, the two of us sincerely also encouraged him to tr
氛中進行，我倆莊嚴而肅穆地一齊唸誦： 父在父親九歲那年逝世，祖母一個人拉扯
other and fell in love. We have many community service, promoting the reciting together the words: “Destined engage in activities with
「天緣德合，長斯相守，與道常存，八德 兩子一女毫不容易，她唯有從順德家鄉跑
memories of laughing and playing positive attitudes of filial piety and to be united, we stand together, in he was friends with. Filial p
綱紀，五倫敦敦，道義為心，夫唱婦隨， 到香港打工，任何低微的工作都去做，為
together, appreciating flowers and respect. By caring for others we accord with the Way, preserving the be expressed at the right
與日同明，諄諄凜遵，大禮圓婚，降福增福。 了生活養孩子，甚至替人坐監賺取酬勞，
writing poems, enjoying ball games, sometimes were able to dissolve eight virtues, sincere in all relations, years later my father req
就是為了兒女。
(1983-01-09)蜜月的假期總是過得很快 exuding the simple enthusiasm of hostility and bring peace. principled and righteous, a harmonious moved to a home for the
，我們的斗室安樂窩，不久愛情結晶又到 所以父親從未逆她半句，這是父親的身 youth. couple, consistent and eternal. Through because he didn’t want to be
To promote love, care, compassion and
來，真正有一家人的熱鬧和忙碌，我每天 教。他經常跟我說，人要多方面研究事物 this grand ceremony and wedding, may to us. So we decided on a cle
We both liked to study traditional filial piety, we organized events such as
親自用電飯煲煮鷄酒替她補身。從《禮記 ，智慧才有進步，孝於天地是為了蒼生萬 blessings flow and flourish.” nearby where he could live in
culture. We joined various Chinese evening gatherings to respect the
》：「大學之道，在明明德，在親民，在止 物，孝於社稷是為了社會民眾，孝於父母
philosophy courses, as well as courses elderly, and performances such as “The (1983-01-09) The honeymoon period He started seeing the doctor
於至善。」從中為女兒改了一個名「善明」 或長輩是為了回饋珍貴的生命。他教授我
in East-West religion and philosophy. Drama of Filial Piety”. When I met my always goes by so fast. Not long after, thanks to my wife’s care
，祈望她成為頂天立地的君子，至善明德。 氣功替人治病，如何安慰病者，「醫病復
Whenever we got together, we would future mother-in-law for the first time, I the crystallization of our love arrived in daughter’s frequent visits,
醫心」是慈悲的工作，要細心安慰，不能
除了工作外，我不忘進修學習，在管理 talk about the meaning of life, the was both excited and nervous. I didn't our little nest. It became a lively and had many peaceful and happy d
隨便不負責任。
學及相關的工業技能科目外，我和太太同 process of growth, family life and filial dare to talk too much, but I felt her care busy home. I prepared special chicken
The day finally arrived th
時帶小孩，互相輪班料理女兒，又繼續修 步入中年，希望多做一些推動文化的工 piety to parents, and even topics such and love for me, just like a son! broth for my wife every day. For my
was leaving us. I wrote a sho
讀晚間文、史、哲課程三年，加深了對中 作，便開始用禮套入生命教育之中。首先 as war and greed. daughter’s name, we chose characters
On the way home, remembering my own for him: “For a man of the pe
西文化的學識。 是「成人加冠禮」，提示青年學生要有責 from the Book of Rites, meaning “good
We talked about raising our own family, mother who is in heaven, I was struck by tears flow; every drop of
任與承擔，擔負家庭的責任就是孝養父母 and bright”, from the verse, “The way of
勤力的工作只能夠增加些微收入，但孝 and chose 20 Chinese characters as our feelings of both joy and sorrow. Sorrow collected for the world;
，還有少年學子的「尊師孝親禮」，尊師 great learning consists in manifesting
敬父親和岳母則大幅提昇，父親退休後花 principles: loyalty, altruism, integrity, because she could not see my family masters, honouring the god
重道勤學習，孝親敬長愛家庭。設計禮服 one's bright virtue, loving the people,
掉了退休金，兄弟姊妹只能花錢租地方給 straightforwardness, magnanimity, and accomplishments with her own buddhas, caring for the c
和冠帽，是妻子在背後的大力支持，搬抬 concluding in goodness.”
他居住，我便安排他住在我家附近，方便 uprightness, righteousness, trustworthiness, eyes. Joy because I could share with her people, never resting
物資、綵排、分配禮服，都是兩口子齊上
我和太太輪流探望他，同時鼓勵他和一位 forbearance, impartiality, universal the love in my life. As I could not attend Apart from working, I did not forget to heaven’s grace, inheriting
齊落，使我無言以謝！
好朋友夫婦多去旅行和活動。孝的確要及 brotherhood, filial piety, benevolence, my parents until their old age, I felt train and study. My wife and I took turns enlightening the future; h

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and kind-hearted, righteous in action, First it was the Adulthood Crowning the better of us, but when the moment hurt their children.
following the way of the sage, working Ceremony, to remind teenage students passed and we remembered the life that
So, with an attitude of filial piety, we
silently, embodying the teachings, and to be aware of and take charge of the our parents gave us, we were reminded
must be patient with our parents’
spreading fearlessness.” responsibilities of life. Responsibility at of the need to respect and forgive each
requests, grateful for our life, and
home means showing filial piety other. If we left some space for the other
Most of the stories my father told me respectful towards the words of our
towards our parents, and caring for to cool off, things always eased back
were tragic. My grandfather died when teachers, then our wisdom will increase.
them. Then it was a ceremony to respect into harmony.
my father was nine. My grandmother No matter where we are, our future will
teachers and be filial to parents, to
struggled to care for two sons and a My daughter once asked me, “Why do be happy and peaceful. "The red leaves
encourage youngsters to respect their
daughter. To provide for her children, we need to endure our parents’ are flying, the fragrance drifts far away,
teachers, value principles and study
she had to leave her hometown and mistakes?” Parents are not perfect and the air spreads kindness, filial piety,
hard; to be filial to their parents, respect
come to Hong Kong, where she did any saints. They could make mistakes. But courtesy and happiness. The hymn of
their elders and love their families. My
work she could to earn money to send the parental heart towards children is life is a clear and cherished treasure."
wife supported me by designing the
home. She was even paid to go to prison always the same; parents would never This we should remember.
ceremonial clothes and headpieces,
for someone else’s crime!
and together we carried the items
That is why my father never said
around, doing rehearsals, distributing
anything against his mother. This was
outfits, and always moving together. I
the example he set for me. He would
am at a loss for words to express my
often tell me that people need to look at
gratitude towards her.
things from many directions; only then
Then we added another activity, a
can we grow in wisdom. Filial piety to
Chinese Cultural Life Education Play
heaven and earth is for all living things;
competition. The first was titled “Filial
filial piety to the God of land and grain is
Piety”. The other topics were Loyalty,
for society and the people; filial piety to
Altruism, Integrity, Straightforwardness,
parents or elders is gratitude for the
Magnanimity, Uprightness, Righteousness,
precious life we received.
Trustworthiness, Forbearance, Impartiality,
He taught me qigong, to help cure
Universal Brotherhood, Filial Piety,
diseases, and how to comfort the sick.
Benevolence, Mercifulness, Comprehension,
He said that healing the sickness while
Temperance, Frugality, Genuineness,
healing the heart is the work of
Propriety, and Harmony.
benevolence. It requires care and
The joyful times with my wife were not
comfort; it cannot be careless and
spent traveling and playing, or eating
irresponsible.
and drinking. They mostly involved
As I entered middle age, I wanted to do
cultural activities, studying, and
more to promote our culture, so I
enjoying things together. Of course,
started to introduce ceremonies into
there were times when our opinions did
life education.
not match, or when our emotions got